Figuring out how to raise children together with an ex is a complicated process. There is no one right way to do it, which means parents must figure out for themselves what type of arrangement will work best for their family.
Some of the difficult emotions with which parents struggle during child custody disputes stem from (or are exacerbated by) an unfamiliarity with the legal process. Parents may be guided by mistaken beliefs or anecdotal recounts from friends and family that are not relevant to their case.
If you and your former spouse or partner agree to raise your children together after you end your relationship, then you will need to have a parenting plan in place. This plan establishes the rights and expectations for each parent in terms of legal and physical custody.